I wrote a while back about seeing a widening crack in my basement wall that brought on stories my brain was telling of â€œdoom and gloomâ€, with the dramatic ending of my becoming a bag lady.Â As I said, at the time it was helpful to remember that this was a â€œstorylineâ€ being told by my brain and not necessarily the truth.
That happened a few years ago, and the widening crack wasnâ€™t a problem at the time.Â However, the drought last summer brought other cracks at various places in the house that were of concern.Â A foundation repair company recommended that we have some piers put in under the foundation for what amounted to be, in my estimation, a small fortune.Â After some further bids and deciding to do SOME of what was recommended we proceeded to have the work done.
One day George and I were showing some friends the excavation work that had been done to put the piers in place.Â This resulted in the need to do extensive re-landscape work, including digging up all of our garden, rebuilding terracing, etc.Â As we showed all of this â€œdamageâ€ to our friends, I found myself complaining about the hassle and expenses involved.Â One friend said, â€œYes, but isnâ€™t great to have the resources to get this done?â€
I noticed I felt irritated.Â Didnâ€™t she know that I would much rather spend money on vacations, or new carpeting, or something FUN??Â Why did she have to be so upbeat about all of this?Â How annoying!
It took a few days, but I began to let in this new perspective, which invited me to really take stock of the ATTITUDE I was carrying aboutÂ all of this.Â While part of me wanted to hang on to my â€œcomplaintâ€, I realized how much better it felt to move into gratitude.Â My friend was correct:Â we were really blessed to have the resources to complete this project and have a stabilized home.Â To change my focus to â€œblessedâ€ instead of â€œhassledâ€ made all the difference in how I felt.
It seems to me that living mindfully doesnâ€™t make problems and challenges go away, but it does change how much I enjoy myself along the way. Â It also changes my ability to bring my best resources to meet the challenges, instead of getting lost in my worst fears or most negative attitudes.
Wishing you a mindful moments.
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